Stronger Marriage: How I Say Something Can Be Just as Important as What I Say

I've definitely noticed a pattern in the book of Proverbs and it's this: Proverbs has a lot to say about my speech.

Of the three verses from Proverbs 15 that I made note of in my devotional journal, I think all of them can apply to what I say and how I say it.

Proverbs 15:4 "Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit."

This verse is a reminder of two things.

1) Be sure that my words are gentle and loving so that they bring life and health to my husband

There are times that my husband needs me to bring something to his attention. But how I deliver that message will determine whether or not my words bring life and health to the conversation or bitterness and anger.

2) I need to be honest with my husband in both the little and big things of life

The second reminder is to be honest with my husband about sin, finances, or anything else that comes into my life that he needs to be made aware of. It's not okay to deceive him even with the "little" things. My reputation before him needs to be one of honesty no matter what.

Proverbs 15:7 "Only the wise can give good advice; fools cannot do so."

Only a wise woman can give her husband good counsel. Where do I get that wisdom? From God's Word. I am foolish to not fill my life with the counsel of God. This not only harms me, but also my marriage. Wisdom affects everything I do, but so does foolishness.

Proverbs 15:17 "A bowl of soup with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate."

I always picture two newlyweds head over heels in love, eating a simple bowl of soup together when I read the first part of this verse. Livin' on love as they say.

But what about a few years into the marriage? Are they still content just to be with each other no matter what their pocketbook looks like? Or, have they grown so distant from each other that it's less stressful to eat separately?

Marriage requires our attention and effort day in and day out. We can't expect to have an awesome marriage just because we wanted one when we said "I Do" at the altar. It takes time, love, attention, sacrifice and so much more to make it be a thriving marriage. In the same vein, we can't expect an awesome marriage twenty years down the road if we aren't building a solid foundation along the way.

Today's Challenge is this: Remind myself that how I say something can be just as important as what I say.

Join me tomorrow as we study Proverbs chapter 16. Just getting started on the series? Catch up with all the posts on my landing page between now and October 31.

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