What I learned from Proverbs 7 is a bit tricky to share. I certainly don't want to pattern my life after the adulterous woman that is warned against in this chapter, but at the same time, I do feel that there are some great helps in this chapter in regards to my intimate relationship with my husband.
As you read through chapter 7, Solomon starts off by urging his son to follow his advice, to treasure his commands and to obey them. He pleads for his son to guard his father's teachings as his most precious possession, to keep them ever before him and to write them deep within his heart. He tells him to love wisdom and to make insight a beloved member of his family. He cautions his son to let those truths hold him back from an affair with an immoral woman and from listening to the flattery of an adulterous woman.
Solomon then goes on to share the story of how he was looking out his window one day at twilight. He saw a foolish young man crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman. The woman, dressed seductively, approached the young man. She proceeded to seduce him in two ways: with her physical attention and by flattering him with her words.
She then goes on to tell him that she has taken great care in preparing her bed for him. You can read more in the chapter to hear the sorrowful ending to this tale, but let me say, ladies, this is tough for me to write about. In fact, I'd rather not. I kept hearing in my head over and over "I can't do this. I can't write this." But in my heart, I know it needs to be addressed and it needs to be said.
We need to pursue our husbands physically. We need them to know that we value our intimate relationship with them. We need to make time to be intimate with them and we need to do it with a pleasing attitude rather than an "if I have to..." one.
We also need to verbally pursue our husband. The immoral woman strategically used her words to make that man feel as if he were the most important person in the world to her. I find myself wondering if I do that for my husband. Or, has he become second place to our children as I care for, nurture and educate them?
I am a busy, homeschooling mom of four wonderful blessings. But, like many of you, I'm tired. I also happen to be a homebody who likes quiet time to herself after the kids have all gone to bed. I also like to go to bed early.
In the past, I often felt like I didn't have the time or energy to invest one on one with my husband. But if you commit to pursue your husband physically and verbally, you will realize it isn't as hard as you might think it will be. (Plus, it's free fun and you don't even have to leave the house!) And honestly, you will come away feeling refreshed and cared for and truthfully, you won't feel as alone as you once did.
Do you remember us talking about our wedding vows? They're not always easy to live out in the busyness of life. But they are a beautiful commitment worthy of upholding.
Today's step towards a stronger marriage is this: praise our husbands daily and approach them for intimate love
Join me tomorrow as we study Proverbs chapter 8. Just getting started on the series? Catch up with all the posts on my landing page between now and October 31.
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