Be a Wife that My Husband Enjoys Being Around

Proverbs 30 tells us the earth cannot endure "a bitter woman who finally gets a husband." . As we have studied the book of Proverbs to see what it says about being a wife, we can see stark contrasts between a godly wife and wicked wife.

This chapter, written by Agur, seems to have a word of caution in verse 23 to those men not yet married. Marry a bitter, angry woman and you will reap something that will make the earth tremble. The joy of marriage will quickly be extinguished when a husband realizes he is married to someone that will drain him for the rest of his days. But by then, it's too late.

I wondered what commentaries said about this particular verse and one idea I came across said this: "What is the lesson {in verse 23]? It is found in four words – when she is married. Odious women are deceitful and selfish enough to alter their conduct during courtship or dating. This is how they set the hook or trap. A man must proceed very slowly, testing her many times to see if he can smell any smoke, for once he has committed to marriage it is too late."

We need to ask ourselves if we have done a bait and switch on our husband.

Did we constantly pick at our husband before we were married? If so, it's doubtful he would have stuck around long enough to marry us.

Did we irritate him or talk with him angrily? If not then, why now?

Did we make sure we put our best foot forward? Then why doesn't our husband deserve at least an attempt at that?

I understand how frazzled and worn a wife can get, especially if she has little ones at home. In fact, today was one of those days when I felt the stress mounting. But at the same time, I would do well to take a deep breath, refocus and remember that my husband is on my side. He's not out to get me or to make me miserable.

Instead of ramming the conversation with fireworks and crescendos of stress and irritation over my day, wouldn't it be better for me to calmly ask him for help. Since my husband is so great, I know he'll help me either way, but wouldn't it be better to come at the conversation with love and peace in my voice instead of an irritated greeting of "Would you please help me?!"

Ever since I wrote a post about how I say something is just as important as what I say, it's become a bit of a mantra in my parenting and in my own self-talk (you know, where you have to remind yourself of truth?)

Deep down, I really do want to be a wife that my husband enjoys being around. This will take effort, but it is worth it.

Today's Challenge is This: be a wife that my husband enjoys being around and is glad he married.

Join me tomorrow as we study Proverbs chapter 31. Just getting started on the series? Catch up with all the posts on my landing page between now and October 31.

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